Breakups. Heartbreaks. Breakdowns. Ugh.
Relationships ain’t easy, right?
As someone who has had her fair share of long-term relationships followed by devastating heartbreak, I know first hand how tough it can be to put yourself back out there in the midst of what seems to be guaranteed failure.
Yet, there are a few powerful mental and emotional shifts that can make all the difference when it comes to continuing to open to the love your deserve and so deeply desire.
I’ve practiced these in my own life and they have kept my heart open, ready and willing to receive love (even in the midst of heartbreak). You too deserve all the love you can hold!
So, sweet one…pick and choose which ones feel nurturing to you, and let’s get that tender heart of yours feeling again.
5 Powerful Tips to Get Ready for Love Now…
1. It’s okay to feel my feelings.
Most people don’t deal with their emotions from previous relationships and heartbreak and this is a ripe recipe for failure in your next relationship. Whether you were the one who ended the relationship, or you were the one who was broken up with, breakups are rough. It’s extremely important to clear out your past baggage from all previous relationships (no matter how long ago they were) so that you don’t bring it into your next relationship. Once you process your emotions and actually feel your feelings about how the relationship ended, you can more easily let go of that relationship and welcome in the love you deserve.
Exercise: Write an angry letter. If it feels right, address it to your previous partner. You won’t be sending this to them. Don’t be PC about it. Let ‘er rip. Then rip up that letter.
2. I am not my past.
Get really honest with yourself about what you really desire in love and relationships NOW. Clarity is what will lead you into noticing when the love you deserve shows up. It’s not dependent on the past. Sometimes we can get addicted to the past. We are searching for someone like our previous partner. Or a love that makes us feel a similar way. Because we can get hooked into the past, when we find something familiar to a previous relationship, we say, “this is right, this is what I am looking for.” The important thing is to explore outside of the familiar so you can experience what actually might feel good. What you really, really want and deserve.
Exercise: Ask yourself, “How do I want to feel in love and a relationship?” Beyond ‘happy’ and ‘good’ – get specific. Write down all of those desired feelings. Circle the top two. Once you know those two that are most important, notice if people help you feel this way when you are exploring potential romantic partners.
3. This happened for me and not to me.
Love can be frustrating at times. Okay, it can be downright difficult! So…what do you do when you feel defeated? When you’re tired of striking out or of “playing the game?” One of the biggest mistakes I see people make is using every situation in dating and love as a reason why it won’t work for them. This immediately takes you out of the game. And guess what? If you’re not in the game, you can’t score the Big Meaningful Love you deserve. By simply changing your mentality to view things as always being in your favor (versus against you), you will not only stay open to receiving the love you deserve but your positivity will make you much more attractive!
Exercise: Next time you feel defeated and are ready to give up, ask yourself “Why is this happening FOR me – and not to me?” By doing this you take the focus off of you and instead, get to see the gift of why this may have happened.
4. My greatest weakness is my greatest strength.
We have a tendency to go into the dating/love arena with our armor on. We act stronger than we are. Pretend things don’t matter to us or affect us. The reality is that we are human beings with big tender hearts. In our society, weakness is looked down upon. So we think we should be strong all the time. However, strength can just be a cover up to protecting our hearts. Instead, meet each other in vulnerability (which can feel like weakness). Give people a peek into your heart, your ugly parts, your dreams. It may feel scary, but this place of vulnerability is the only place that real connection can be born. Only through what is perceived as a weakness can we open up to let the love in.
Exercise: List the things you consider as your weaknesses. How do they serve you? What is the gift in that weakness? How might this weakness actually be beautiful? For example, If you feel like you are too emotional…the gift you may get from this perceived weakness is your ability to feel very deeply. Perhaps you are sensitive to others. You care. These are beautiful strengths.
5. I am worthy of the love I want.
You. Are. Worthy….of all the love you desire. I believe it for you. Do you believe it for yourself? If you don’t feel worthy of love then you won’t be able to receive the love you deserve. We block anything we don’t feel worthy of. It’s a way that we “protect” ourselves. But in the end, it’s self sabotage, because what we really crave is Big Meaningful Love with an amazing partner. If you don’t feel worthy of love, love is not going to feel worthy of you. Oftentimes, we separate ourselves from other people. We categorize ourselves as “less than” because of our past, our choices, how we grew up, the way we have lived our life. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from…simply because you were born, you are worthy of love. You don’t have to do anything. You can just be and be good enough. And the person who is worthy of you will recognize this.
Exercise: Each morning when you wake up, put your hand over your heart and say “I am loved, I am loving, and I am being loved.” This simply act of self love will remind you of your worthiness, increasing your self confidence and making you much more attractive!
Alrighty love…now it’s YOUR turn!
Which 1 of the 5 Powerful Tips to Get Ready for Love Now are you committed to implementing in your own life?
Remember that sharing allows us to claim our worthiness for love, and also reminds us that we are not alone in the path towards meaningful relationships…so…share your answer in the comments below! 🙂
I can’t wait to hear from you!
To Your Radiance,
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