“I’ve got a stomach ache.”
“Sorry, I’m stuck in traffic.”
“My brother’s, baby’s cat got hypothermia and I just can’t make it…”
I remember when I used to make excuses like this.
I would commit to something that was really exciting – an event or self-development opportunity…then, when the time came to show up for that something exciting, I wouldn’t show up.
The process would be a little like this:
I would work myself up all day…questioning why I made the commitment in the first place. Did I really want to go? What if no one liked me? What if they expected me to be someone other than who I felt like being that day? What if, I was the only one who felt…scared. Ugh, I can’t handle this anxiety, it will be easier to just lie and stay home on my comfy couch where it’s safe. It will be easier to hide. Yes, that’s what I’ll do.
Maybe you can relate?
I missed out on so much back then.
One of the first things I acknowledge when women show up to my events, or on a phone call with me is that they showed up. It’s a BIG deal.
Just this past Friday, before my Fill Your Cup Friday event began, I was having a convo with one of the attendees and she mentioned that she almost didn’t show up. She said things have been hard. That she hasn’t been herself.
Showing up for her was a big deal.
Because when we show up, we’re telling ourselves that it’s okay to come as we are. With no expectations of how we should act, or what we should say. We are allowing ourselves to just receive without having to be a certain way.
When we don’t show up, we’re hiding. And hiding does us no good, it only keeps us stuck in the funk that we are currently experiencing.
I tell my clients that many people say life is 70% just showing up. I truly believe it’s 95%.
Some of the best moments of my life have occurred when I moved past the fear, remembered why I made the decision to leap in the first place, and just showed up.
Just showing up has led me to…
Receive support from an amazing group of women who I’ve led for the past 3 years. Before almost every meeting, I don’t want to show up. I’m afraid that I’m not a good enough leader. That I’m going to have to be “leader-y” (have a big smile on my face and be super energetic…even when I feel like poo). But when I push past that and just show up, magic happens. (P.S. I just recently confessed this to the group of women I lead and they were completely shocked).
Produce a TEDxWomen event (going on producing the third year of TEDxFremontEastWomen with my bestie), sing on stage and do improv poetry on stage. All scary. All things that I’ve wanted to do, but have been too afraid to…until I just showed up. And did them.
Create my women’s retreat to Bali – The Radiance Recharge. I’ve wanted to do this for so long. But it wasn’t until I showed up on a conference call with my now coach, Christina Morassi, that I had the guts (and support from her) to make it happen. (more about this journey in a future blog!)
Meet the man of my dreams. As I mentioned in my last email, I met my love, Harnaik, on New Year’s Eve when I literally just showed up to a gong meditation. No bra. No make-up. Messy hair and mismatched clothes. Just me.
When are those times when you just showed up and something amazing happened?
Let’s create more of those moments together.
Will you start with me this coming Saturday, Feb. 7 by showing up for my next Her Radiance Revealed Webinar: Self Care & Trusting Your Intuition with Christina Ambubuyog?
Can’t make it live? Make sure to still register so you can watch the replay
It’s gonna be killer. The only requirement is that you…Just. Show. Up.
To Your Radiance,
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