To change the world, we’ve got to do this.

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the amount of suffering in the world?

From people who don’t have a morsel to eat.
To the animals that are slain for sport.
To the destruction of our natural rainforests.

My heart gets overwhelmed by all there is to do.

I was just speaking with a client the other night during her coaching call, about her extraordinary experience in Greece, helping the refugees. This was her Big Meaningful Dream – to go and help people in need in another country. Her big heart led her there, and within 5 months of declaring this was her dream, she did it.

But it wasn’t easy.

The amount of guilt can creep in…

“I’m not doing enough.”

I know I have felt this way pretty much my whole life.

It’s one of the main reasons I’ve spent my time as an over-giver…serving everyone else, doing anything I could do to help.

I sat on multiple committees, boards and charity organizations – from the Boys & Girls Clubs to leading the philanthropic committee for a young professional division of the Las Vegas Chamber of Commerce.

I gave, and gave, and gave.

And yet, something was still missing….but I felt guilty because why would I quit these noble roles? Who was I to feel like I could sit back and do nothing?

But here’s the catch:

As women with big hearts, overwhelmed by the pain of the world, we are doing no good over-exerting ourselves “trying” to help, when we have nothing to give.

In other words, most of our wells are dry from giving every ounce of our soul-water…and we are now trying to quench the world’s thirst with air.

This is a hard place to look at within ourselves.

For me, it took near burn-out…but finally, I was able to come to a place where I understood this simple truth:

It was actually SELFISH for me to remain over-giving when there was someone out there who had filled her cup enough to give from a full well and could do the job better than I.

You might still be having a hard time getting this…

Maybe you’re thinking:

If we don’t give, who will?
When I give, I receive so much love.
What will I do if I am not giving?

I was speaking to one of my soul sisters about how this year is the year of HER.

Of course, I was completely over-joyed to hear this since that is what I teach my clients to do…to focus on themselves first, so that they can give from a plentiful well.

She realized that all her charity work and over-giving was actually a way to PROVE herself.  She wasn’t sure who she would be without all of this giving.

I smiled as she said this and reflected something that I continue to remind myself and my clients on the regular:

YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.  Simply by being who you are. {click to tweet}

Now…let me be clear here. I am NOT saying that we all should stop giving entirely. What I AM saying is that in order to give from that pure place of your heart…the place that isn’t trying to prove something or earn love…you MUST take care of yourself first.

Your well must be overflowing in order to quench the pain of the world. And sometimes this requires quitting it all and focusing on infusing those depleted wells with self love for a few weeks, months, or like I did…3 years.

It’s not easy to come to this place of understanding.  But continuing to take care of yourself, first and foremost is what will propel you forward to transform the pain of the world.

Because I believe so wholeheartedly in the magic that happens when we fill our cups, then allow that overflow to be the healing water poured on the world’s wounds, we practice this concept in Bali during my retreat, The Radiance Recharge.

During the week we are together, I am gently reminding the ladies that there is no one to worry about except themselves. That it’s okay to only focus on YOU. We go deep with this concept and it’s not easy, but the reward is a beautiful recognition of self acceptance.  Of being ENOUGH.

Then, towards the end of the week, we make our way to an optional outing, where we share our love that we have filled up on, with the children of Bali at an orphanage. 

Photos of us at the Bali orphanage at last year's retreat!

We visited this same orphanage last year during the retreat and it was absolutely healing for all of us to connect with these children, hear their stories and share in their pain.

And because we filled ourselves up all week, we were able to be even more present, loving, understanding -our own “stuff” didn’t get in the way of how we showed up to love these kiddos.

I share all of this with you because I know you have a big heart that hurts for the World. You wouldn’t be here as part of my community if you didn’t.

And that means it’s even more important to continue filling your cup, so that you CAN do the Big Meaningful Work you were meant to do in the world.

I’ll leave you with something I told my client who just got back from Greece:

I know it’s overwhelming, but just like a delicious chocolate cake, take it bite by bite. If you try to do it all and shove that cake down your throat in one swoop, you’re gonna get sick. But if you revel in the sweetness of each bite, nurturing yourself then giving what you can, the journey will be powerfully life-changing and you will help more people than you could ever imagine.

Here’s to savoring the rewarding bite-by-bite, world-changing work you are here to do.

To Your Radiance,

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The Radiance Recharge – Bali Retreat

April 22-30, 2016

5 Spots Remain for 5 Special Women!

The Radiance Recharge - women's Bali retreat - click to learn more!

If this email resonated with you and and you would love the opportunity to travel to a beautiful island and focus on yourself for the first time, then give back to the amazing kiddos of Bali at the orphanage with me and an intimate group of other heart-centered women, I would love to connect with you and explore if The Radiance Recharge is right for you.

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